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my husband is australian and we are planning a move back in november. he has been on at me for 9yrs or so to go and gave up last year as he was tired of trying. i didnt feel able to leave my family here. however at the begining of the year i said.. lets go and it was full steam ahead, plans in full swing, no hesitation but then i went to see my mum about the whole thing. she never said dont go but said she would really miss her grandchildren and seeing themn grow up. my little boy is 4 and very very fond of granny, also his two cousins, one of whom is the same age.

I feel i am in a bubble and i am finding it hard to see the wood for the trees.. like once i get all the paperwork done i will be able to focus on actually being there and how much i will miss my family, bu by then it will be too late! . keep thinking how many more  times will i see my family and if my mum is ill i wont be there for her. i am sure others have had some of these feelings.. didnt know if anyone had any thoughts or be able to share some of their feelings... x

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Comment by david simpson on June 29, 2011 at 22:34

Hi David's wife Fiona here I had a big lump in my throat reading your message. I know exactly how you feel.

David has been wanting to go for years but it took me till after we had our second child to say lets give it a try. We are heading for New Zealand hopefully in Nov too. I am close to my family too, but I know its going to be good for our wee family unit and with skype these days our parents won't miss out in seeing the there grandchildren growing up. We feel like the two extremes can't wait to get out there and so exited about our soon to be new venture but sad to leave.

 Just spoke to a girl today who is home from NZ, seeing her family and she said it was hard the first couple of years but now she is so settled and loves it out there .

We both said if we don't try it we might regret it or on a funny note my brother said "we've got an itch and you've got to scratch it" lol !!. You be strong and I'll be strong then a couple of years down the line we'll be saying " no worries " in a warmer climate. Best of luck

Comment by Paul Johnson on June 28, 2011 at 2:50

Hi Claire,

Yes, it can be hard (in my case my parents passed away some years ago, but I left behind four brothers and my sister as well as numerous nieces, nephews etc.).  But you have to say to yourself, is this the right thing for ME and MY  family?  Because it is a better lifestyle here; their are more opportunities, the economy is better and people on the whole are friendlier.

 

Plus Skype is a wonderful tool for keeping in touch and if your parents don't have it download it for them.  One of my nephews lives in NYC and his  Mum and Dad Skype every day to keep in touch.

I know it's a big move but I bet when it's done you won't regret it.  I know I haven't.

Comment by Laura Balling on June 27, 2011 at 21:07

Hi Claire

I felt exactly the same and it has been a really hard decision to make the jump.  My parents have been very supportive and are already planning on when they can come out to see us but it was still really hard to make the decision.  I have decided that I would rather give it a go and come back if it doesn't work out than to be always wondering what it would have been like.  When we went on holiday there I felt like it would be a good place to bring my 2 boys up and they could have a much healthier outdoor way of life.  I am not looking forward to saying goodbye to everyone when we go but there will be good days and bad days.  Just know that you're not on your own and it always helps to share it with others hope this helps xx

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